Loneliness for those in the LGBT community during the holidays
The Holidays can be a very difficult time for those in the LGBTQ community no question. It can be hard to see all the ‘normal’ people going about their way and doing the things that ‘normal’ people do like Holiday shopping and getting together with family while you feel ‘left out’ because you’re ‘different’.
But let’s be honest for a moment and take a look at what’s really going on. The simple fact is that many people, straight or gay, feel lonely and depressed during the holidays. Believe me there are plenty of seemingly normal people out there that feel completely alone and, in fact, are alone for the Holidays.
In truth feeling lonely during the Holidays is a problem that affects many people but, if you’re a LGBTQ person it may just feel a little more acute. You’ve already got feelings of being alone and being ‘different’ and the Holidays can sometimes make those feelings seem more intense. Watching as people celebrate with loved ones you may feel isolated and alone and, to be sure, that’s actually pretty normal.
The thing is you’re not alone unless you want to be. There are so many social things that you can do during the holidays that it’s not even funny, things that even though they might not be connected directly to you and ‘your world’ can still make you feel more connected to the outside world.
For example, you could volunteer at a shelter or soup kitchen and help those less fortunate than you. Church groups and volunteer organizations of every kind are always looking for extra bodies and extra hands during the Holidays and believe me they don’t care if you like guys, gals or both.
If that’s not your thing you could go to the mall and walk around, greeting all the people that are working and striking up conversations with, well, anybody. Heck, most of the people you’ll find will be in a great mood and who knows, you may just find someone that is looking for companionship just like you are. You don’t even have to shop!
Finding an LGBTQ group to be involved in is also a possibility. They’re out there and just a mouse click or 2 away online. Speaking of online, chatting or joining a chat room for LGBTQ folks can be a great way to feel connected and may lead to new relationships. If you have Skype or Facetime even better.
The main thing to remember is simply this; you’re not the only person who feels alone and you don’t have to be alone. If you really want to you can get out there and be social because the Holidays are a supremely social time of year. Go and do something and, for just a little while, forget about ‘who’ you are and just be yourself. You’ll find that most people don’t care about who you want to have sex with as long as you’re a pleasant, caring person.